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August 12, 2025 · 3:23 pm

Oh! LORD, I Didn’t See That Coming

How often have we found ourselves walking a path, diligently seeking the Lord, and then – bam – something happens that we never saw coming? Perhaps it’s a blessing so overwhelming it takes our breath away, a gentle whisper of guidance that redirects our steps in a beautiful new way, or an unfolding of events so perfectly orchestrated that we can only stand in awe of our Heavenly Father’s handiwork.

Today, I want us to reflect on the incredible truth found in 1 Corinthians 2:9: “However, as it is written: ‘What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived’— the things God has prepared for those who love him—” (NIV).

Think about that for a moment. The Creator of the universe, the One who knows every hair on our heads (Matthew 10:30), has prepared things for us that are beyond our wildest imaginations! Our human minds, limited by our earthly experiences, cannot even begin to grasp the fullness of His love and the abundance of His blessings.

This reminds me of the complex and compelling story of Jephthah in the book of Judges (chapters 11-12). Here was a man who had been an outcast, driven from his home and even surrounded by those considered “worthless” (Judges 11:1-3). Yet, Jephthah didn’t allow this rejection to define him entirely. When the elders of Gilead, who had previously cast him out, found themselves in dire straits against the Ammonites, they turned to him, pleading for his leadership (Judges 11:5-6).

What’s remarkable is Jephthah’s response. He didn’t immediately forgive and forget. He challenged their past actions: “Did you not hate me and drive me from my father’s house? Why do you come to me now when you are in trouble?” (Judges 11:7). This wasn’t just holding onto a grudge; it was an assertion of his inherent worth and a demand for a genuine commitment. He didn’t give up on his value or his potential, even when others had. He negotiated, ensuring that if he led them to victory, he would indeed become their leader (Judges 11:9-11). This speaks volumes about perseverance and refusing to be limited by past injustices.

Furthermore, despite his illegitimate birth in the eyes of his half-brothers, Jephthah clearly believed in his right to his father’s legacy. His actions suggest a deep-seated understanding that he was indeed an inheritor, deserving of respect and a place within his community. He carried a sense of rightful belonging, which fueled his response to the elders.

Like Jephthah, we may have experienced times when we felt unjustly treated, as though things that were rightfully ours – opportunities, respect, even relationships – were taken away. These experiences can leave deep wounds. However, Jephthah’s story reminds us that our past does not have to dictate our future. We can, like him, stand firm in our inherent worth in God’s eyes and not give up on our potential.

In this world, as Christians, we are told to expect tribulation (John 16:33). We will face various forms of persecution—whether emotional, social, political, personal, or even physical. The pressures of our current culture push at us from all sides, challenging our convictions and our peace. In these moments, it is absolutely crucial that we do not forget our new identity in Christ, but instead, rely on it.

Our identity isn’t based on what the world says about us, what others have taken from us, or even our past mistakes. Our identity is rooted in Christ: we are children of God, redeemed, beloved, and called to purpose (Galatians 3:26, Ephesians 1:4-5). This divine identity empowers us with the perseverance needed to refuse to be limited by past injustices or present pressures.

Ultimately, for those who diligently seek God and rely on the goodness of His blessings, the “Oh! Lord, I didn’t see that coming!” moments are often filled with a joy and abundance that far exceeds anything we could have orchestrated ourselves (1 Corinthians 2:9). Let us strive to live with that hopeful expectation, putting aside negativity and embracing the unexpected blessings God has in store.

Journaling Prompts:

 * Reflect on a time when you faced injustice or felt something was unfairly taken from you. How did you respond? What can you learn from Jephthah’s initial response to the elders?

 * In what ways can you better recognize and affirm your inherent worth and belonging as a child of God, even if you have experienced rejection or loss?

 * Consider any grudges or negative feelings you may be holding onto. How might releasing these burdens open you up to God’s blessings and lead to a greater sense of peace?

 * Think about a time when you persevered through a challenging situation despite past setbacks. How did that experience strengthen your faith and remind you of your identity in Christ?

 * Pray and ask God to help you embrace resilience and a spirit of forgiveness, trusting that He has good plans for your future, even the ones you don’t see coming, and that your identity in Him will sustain you through all challenges.

May you walk in the strength and hope that comes from knowing you are deeply loved and that God’s unexpected blessings await you!

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August 4, 2025 · 1:33 pm

Oh! LORD, I’ve Fallen Off the Bandwagon

In our fast-paced world, it’s incredibly easy to find ourselves pulled along by the currents of popular opinion, a compelling new trend, or even a subtle shift in cultural values. Sometimes, before we even realize it, we’re simply following the crowd without truly discerning the path or its destination. Perhaps it was a new diet craze, a popular social cause, or a way of thinking you unknowingly adopted. You might have, as I have at times, found yourself feeling like you’ve fallen off a “bandwagon” – or perhaps were on one you never truly intended to join!

And, in the ancient book of Judges, we see a recurring pattern with the Israelites. They would pledge their allegiance to God, experience His incredible blessings, and then, drawn by the seemingly alluring practices of the surrounding pagan cultures – the “bandwagons” of their time, worshipping gods like Baal and Asherah – they would stray. The consequences were always hardship and separation from God.

As women seeking a deeper, more intimate walk with the Lord, we too can find ourselves tempted by modern-day “bandwagons.” These might not always be as overt as idol worship, but they can subtly pull us away from our core values and our precious relationship with God. It could be the relentless pursuit of worldly success, the pressure to conform to certain beauty standards, the adoption of gossip-ridden news stories as our primary focus, or even well-intentioned but ultimately unbiblical beliefs that gain widespread popularity. The allure can be strong, especially when life feels monotonous or we just want to fit in. A lack of conviction, the fear of missing out (FOMO), and superficial motivations can easily lead us in the exact opposite direction of where we truly desire to go.

So, how do we stay grounded and avoid these spiritual pitfalls and disturbances, particularly in these end times of great unrest and turmoil? The Apostle Paul, in 1 Corinthians 12, speaks of the diverse spiritual gifts given by the Holy Spirit for the building up of the body of Christ. Among these invaluable gifts are knowledge, insight (often referred to as wisdom or understanding), and discernment.

These gifts are not just theoretical concepts; they are practical, empowering tools designed by God to equip us for life’s journey. They act as our anchors in the storms of life!

  • The Gift of Knowledge: This is more than just intellectual understanding. Spiritual knowledge is a deep, personal knowing of God’s Word, His unchanging character, and His perfect ways. When we are rooted in this knowledge, we have a firm foundation to evaluate the “bandwagons” that come our way. We can confidently ask: Does this align with what I know to be true about God? Does it reflect His love, justice, and mercy?
  • The Gift of Insight (Wisdom/Understanding): Insight takes knowledge a step further. It’s the Holy Spirit giving us the ability to see beyond the surface, to understand the underlying principles and the potential long-term consequences of an action or belief. When faced with a compelling new idea or social trend, insight allows us to ask: What are the potential effects of this on my walk with God? What are the hidden assumptions? Where might this truly lead me and those I love?
  • The Gift of Discernment: This is the crucial ability to distinguish between what is of God and what is not, between truth and falsehood, between what is beneficial and what is harmful. Discernment acts like a spiritual filter, helping us to recognize the subtle “red flags” even when they are disguised in appealing packaging. It protects us from distractions and disruptions that seek to pull us away from God’s will and best for us.

These spiritual gifts are not meant to be dormant within us. As we purposely remain “on spiritual guard” and in a state of prayerful regard, cultivating our relationship with the Holy Spirit through consistent prayer, dedicated Bible study, and seeking Godly counsel, these gifts can be awakened and sharpened. They provide invaluable insights not only for avoiding spiritual derailment but also for making wise, God-honoring decisions in our families, our careers, and our communities. They empower us to live with intention and purpose, guided by God’s wisdom rather than the fleeting trends of the world.

When we are rooted in divine knowledge, guided by spiritual insight, and protected by discernment, we can experience even greater peace and joy. This is how we can navigate life’s challenges with a confidence that transcends circumstances, while simultaneously deepening our intimacy with God and allowing His peace and joy to flourish within us, regardless of what’s happening around us.

Let us, therefore, be intentional about seeking and strengthening these incredible gifts. Let us pray for knowledge to understand God’s truth, for insight to see with spiritual clarity, and for discernment to navigate the complexities of life. By doing so, we can stay firmly planted on the path of life, resisting the urge to blindly follow the crowd and instead walking closely with our Lord!

Journaling Prompts:

  1. Think about a time you felt like you were “on a bandwagon” – perhaps in a social trend, a particular belief, or even a way of thinking. What were the underlying motivations behind your involvement? What were the outcomes, good or bad?
  2. Consider the spiritual gifts of knowledge, insight, and discernment. In which of these areas do you feel God is specifically calling you to grow right now? What one practical step can you take this week to cultivate that gift (e.g., spending more focused time in Scripture, praying specifically for wisdom in a decision, seeking counsel from a trusted, spiritually mature friend)?
  3. Identify a current “social bandwagon” or prevalent cultural idea that you feel might subtly challenge your walk with God. How can you intentionally use the gifts of knowledge, insight, and discernment to evaluate it through a biblical lens?
  4. How does the idea of these gifts being “practical, empowering tools” and “anchors” resonate with you in your daily life? How can you apply this truth to a specific situation you’re facing this week?
  5. Spend some time in prayer, asking the Holy Spirit to strengthen these gifts within you. Ask Him to show you any areas where you might be unknowingly swayed by “bandwagons” and to grant you the wisdom and courage to walk in His truth, experiencing His peace and joy in every circumstance.

Dr. Buck / Christian Life Coach /
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July 28, 2025 · 9:57 pm

Oh, LORD! My Goose is Cooked

There are moments in life that hit us like a ton of bricks – those sudden, undeniable realizations that we’ve landed ourselves in a tricky spot. It’s that feeling of looking at a situation and wanting to throw your hands up, exclaiming, “Oh, LORD! My goose is cooked!” I know I’ve been there. That heavy, disheartening feeling of hitting rock bottom, realizing your choices have led you straight into a mess, and thinking, “There’s no way out of this one!” As Christian women striving to walk with God, it can sometimes feel even more isolating.

We’ve all been there, haven’t we? Those moments when despite our best intentions, or perhaps a moment of impatience or leaning on our own understanding, our actions result in a less-than-desired, even dire, outcome. It’s when you’re staring at the consequences of a decision, big or small, and the full weight of it settles in. Maybe it’s a strained relationship from words spoken too quickly, a financial bind from a hasty purchase, or a missed opportunity because we hesitated for too long. That gut-wrenching feeling of, “How did I get here, and what on earth do I do now?”

But here’s the beautiful truth we need to hold onto: our God is a God of redemption, even when our goose feels utterly cooked. He meets us in our messes, not to condemn us, but to guide us through. This blog is all about those moments – what happens when we face the music, how we navigate the aftermath, and most importantly, how we can lean on God to avoid those “cooked goose” scenarios in the future.

This journey, our walk with Christ, isn’t about perfection, but about progress. It’s about learning to step out in faith, to follow God’s leading with humble hope, and to act in love, even when the path isn’t perfectly clear or our past choices loom large. It’s about trusting that even when we stumble, God’s grace is sufficient, and His plans for us are always good.

Finding Our Way Out (And Avoiding Future “Cooked Geese”)

So, how do we shift from panic to peace, from despair to divine direction? It starts with recognizing that God’s Word is not just a book of rules, but a lamp for our feet and a light for our path (Psalm 119:105). It is designed to lead us, not into temptation or regret, but into all good works that God has prepared for us (Ephesians 2:10).

Even some well-known women in the Bible, despite their incredible faith, experienced moments where their very human reactions showed a temporary lack of circumspection. Think of Sarah, for instance. 

When the Lord visited Abraham and promised that Sarah, well advanced in years, would bear a son, Sarah was eavesdropping from inside the tent. Her first, very human response, was to laugh to herself (Genesis 18:12). It wasn’t a malicious laugh, but a laugh of disbelief at something that seemed utterly impossible given her age and circumstances. 

Later, when the Lord gently confronted her about it, asking, “Is anything too hard for the Lord?”, Sarah even tried to deny her laughter out of fear. Yet, God didn’t condemn her or retract His promise. Instead, He beautifully affirmed His power and faithfulness.

Sarah’s story reminds us that sometimes, our “cooked goose” moments aren’t due to outright disobedience, but from a struggle to fully grasp the bigness of God and His ability to do the impossible. It’s a powerful lesson in bringing our doubts and human limitations before Him, and learning to trust that His plans will prevail, even when they defy all logic and human understanding.

Here’s the good news. One of the most powerful safeguards against those snap judgments or hasty decisions that land us in hot water is simply this: taking intentional, consecrated time in prayer before the LORD. Before we act, before we speak, before we commit – we pause. We bring our thoughts, our desires, our fears, and our situations before Him, laying them bare. “Lord,” we pray, “show me your way. Guide me by your truth. Give me wisdom from above.” 

This isn’t just a quick plea; it’s a patient, listening posture. It’s about cultivating a heart that truly seeks His counsel above all else, trusting that His leading will always be for our ultimate good and His glory. This deliberate communion with God allows Him to illuminate the path, reveal potential pitfalls, and infuse us with the courage and discernment needed to make choices that honor Him, no matter how “cooked” our situation may seem.

Let’s Reflect & Journal:

Take a moment in quiet reflection and consider:

  • When was your last “cooked goose” circumstance – that situation where you felt stuck due to a difficult outcome?
  • What did you do in that moment, and what was the immediate result?
  • Looking back, what does the Word of God direct regarding that situation or the decisions you made?
  • Knowing what you know now, and guided by God’s Word, what would you have done differently?
  • In your situation, stop to hear God saying, “Is there anything too hard for the LORD?” How do you respond?

Dr. Buck / Christian Life Coach /

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July 21, 2025 · 10:11 pm

Oh, LORD! There’s a Ghost in My Closet

As a young girl, I was afraid of the dark, and my closet at night often felt like the scariest place of all. My imagination would conjure up all sorts of spooky thoughts! As I grew older, I realized those were just shadows playing tricks. But have you ever felt like there’s a different kind of “ghost” lurking in your past? Not a spooky apparition, but a memory, a hurtful word, or a limiting belief that just won’t seem to leave you alone. It whispers doubts, stirs up old shame, and tries to convince you that you’re still the person you used to be, even though you know in your heart that God has made you new.

For many of us, these “ghosts” are real. They might stem from childhood experiences, a critical comment from someone we loved, or even a personal failure that we just can’t seem to shake. They can feel like heavy chains, holding us back from fully embracing the freedom and identity we have in Christ.

I recently had a dream that brought one of my own “ghosts” to the surface. In the dream, I found myself forgetting someone very important to me, someone who represented my past and the foundational values I grew up with. Despite my efforts, I struggled to bring her “home” – to a place of safety, belonging, and identity. The feeling of forgetfulness and being unable to help was incredibly distressing.

This dream resonated with a memory from my youth. I remembered seeking help with a task, only to be met with a dismissive comment that implied I wasn’t capable. For years, that hurtful label lingered, a quiet “ghost” in my mental closet, trying to define me. Even as I grew, achieved, and stepped into my calling, that old whisper tried to tell me I wasn’t smart enough, not truly capable.

But here’s the beautiful truth, dear sister in Christ: When we are in Christ, we are a new creation! The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV): “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

This isn’t just a nice idea; it’s a profound spiritual reality. The “old” you, burdened by past hurts, labels, and limitations, has passed away. The “new” you, redeemed and transformed by God’s grace, is here! You are not defined by those old “ghosts” or the whispers of the past.

So, what do we do with these lingering memories that try to hinder our walk with God? We don’t ignore them or pretend they don’t exist. Instead, we bring them into the light of God’s truth.

Think of it like this: You wouldn’t leave a “ghost” (a painful memory) to haunt your closet forever, would you? No! You’d want to deal with it, expose it, and let it go. And that’s exactly what we can do with God’s help.

Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV) encourages us: “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”

This doesn’t mean we literally erase our memories, but rather that we release their crushing power over us. We choose to deal with them according to the Word of God, allowing God to do a “new thing” in our lives.

How do we turn these hurtful memories over to God?

  1. Acknowledge the Pain: It’s okay to admit that a memory hurts or has held you back. God is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
  2. Surrender it in Prayer: Just as I prayed after my dream, take that memory, that label, that shame, and lay it at the feet of Jesus. He invites us in Matthew 11:28 (NIV): “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” He wants to carry your burdens.
  3. Embrace Your New Identity: Remind yourself daily of who God says you are. You are loved, chosen, redeemed, and powerful in Christ! You are not a “dumb bunny”; you are a brilliant, capable daughter of the King!
  4. Renew Your Mind: As Romans 12:2 (NIV) says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Replace those old, negative thoughts with God’s truth. Fill your mind with His promises.

When we turn these “ghosts” over to God, something incredible happens. Through the power of Chrst’ work on the cross, they lose their power. The shame dissipates. The chains break. We are free to fully step into the powerful, new creature He has made us to be. We can then use our experiences, even the painful ones, to minister to others and shine His light even brighter.

So, dear sister, what “ghost” might be lurking in your closet today? Take a moment, invite the Holy Spirit to reveal it, and then, with open hands and a trusting heart, turn it over to the Lord. Watch as He replaces that old, hindering memory with His loving care, transforming you more and more into the magnificent woman He created you to be.

You are a new creation, walking forward in His grace!

Journal Prompt:

Take some time to reflect and write in your journal:

  1. What “ghost” (a past memory, a hurtful word, or a limiting belief) might be lingering in your own “closet” and trying to hold you back?
  2. How has this memory impacted your life or your walk with God?
  3. What specific steps can you take today to surrender this hurt-filled memory to the Lord and embrace the new identity He has given you in Christ? Write out a prayer of release and new stance in Christ.

Dr. Buck / Christian Life Coach /

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July 14, 2025 · 2:37 pm

Oh, LORD! I Lost my GPS

My dear friends in Christ, have you ever felt like life is a road full of unexpected turns? One moment you’re cruising along, feeling a wonderful sense of freedom and direction, and the next, you encounter a detour, a sudden roadblock, a pothole, or even the unsettling experience of something we deeply rely on being completely dismantled. These moments are challenging, aren’t they? And in these times, when we feel disoriented and unsure of the way, we learn to cry out: “Oh, LORD! I’ve lost my GPS!”

The True Meaning of Mobility

Without a doubt, we all cherish our mobility in life, and rightly so! It’s more than just getting from one place to another. For many of us, mobility importantly represents:

  • The freedom to move forward in purpose: To walk confidently towards the calling God has placed on our hearts, embracing new opportunities, and seeing His hand guide our progress.
  • The freedom of cherished independence: To joyfully steward the gifts and choices He’s given us, navigating our paths with a sense of security and control that only comes from knowing He is with us.
  • The freedom of renewed perspective: The blessing of stepping away from the daily noise, getting a fresh look at our circumstances, and finding the quiet wisdom that helps us move forward.

These forms of mobility are precious gifts. We work diligently to nurture them, and when they feel threatened, it’s natural to feel a pang of distress. We might find ourselves pleading, striving, or even wrestling to regain control over what feels lost. Yet, sometimes, in God’s perfect plan, we come to a moment where we simply must acknowledge: “This situation, Lord, is truly beyond my power.”

Finding Strength in Surrender

It’s precisely in these times of surrender, when our human efforts fall short, that the most beautiful truth emerges: our inner strength, rooted in Christ, is tested and refined. We have a divine choice before us. Will we yield to the heavy burdens of anxiety, frustration, or despair? Or, will we choose the path illuminated by His Word?

For those of us walking by faith, this path leads us to a deeper, more profound reliance on our Heavenly Father. The Bible beautifully reminds us to “wait upon the Lord” (Isaiah 40:31). This isn’t passive idleness, but an active, hopeful, and trusting surrender. It’s a conscious decision to clothe ourselves in joy and peace, even when the storms of life rage around us. We trust that God’s ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts deeper than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9), knowing He is orchestrating all things for our good.

When something significant is removed from our lives – perhaps a familiar means of progress, a sense of security, or a long-held expectation – it often clears the way for something far greater. The dismantling, though it may feel painful in the moment, can be God’s loving hand gently, yet firmly, guiding us to a necessary recalibration. He encourages us to redefine what “mobility” means in His kingdom, and to discover innovative, God-given ways to move forward, perhaps on paths we never dreamed possible.

Navigating Life’s Way with Faith

The journey of life will always present its twists and turns. We will inevitably encounter moments where our cherished freedoms feel challenged. But by rooting ourselves deeply in His promises, embracing the resilience He pours into us, and finding peace in surrendering what we cannot control, we can navigate life’s way with an unwavering spirit, knowing that the Lord Himself will rescue and deliver us from every adversary (Psalm 34:19). Indeed, “If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36).

Now, dear friend, it’s your turn:

In your own journey, how has your understanding of true “mobility” or “freedom” transformed when faced with life’s unexpected challenges? What new paths has God revealed to you when old ways of moving forward were no longer an option? What Bible verse came alive in that moment of unrest?

Dr. Buck / Christian Life Coach /

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July 8, 2025 · 7:00 am

Oh, LORD! My Dinner Disappeared (And So Did My Patience)

You know those moments when you turn your back for just a second, and suddenly, chaos (or a missing dinner) ensues? That was my reality recently. I’d set down my dinner, turned to grab something, and in a flash, my new canine companion, Abby, had made herself very, very comfortable with my meal. My delicious, hard-earned dinner, gone in less than sixty seconds!

Now, rationally, I know Abby’s thinking is different than mine. She saw food, she ate it. Simple dog logic. But in that moment? Oh, LORD! My immediate reaction wasn’t sweet understanding. It was a wave of frustration, annoyance, and honestly, a tiny, stubborn grudge. And that’s when it hit me: how easily these small, everyday incidents can expose something deeper within us – like how long we can hold onto something we’d rather let go of.

The Weight of Our “Stolen Dinners”

It might just be a stolen dinner, but think about how often we hold onto bigger “stolen” moments in our lives:

 * A harsh word someone said.

 * A perceived slight from a friend.

 * A disappointment that didn’t go our way.

 * A mistake we made that we just can’t seem to forgive ourselves for.

Like a cold plate of leftovers, these grudges and resentments can linger, stealing our peace and weighing us down. We tell ourselves we’ve moved on, but then a little memory, like the thought of a lost dinner, sparks that old annoyance all over again.

What Does God Say About Letting Go?

The good news is, God doesn’t want us carrying around that kind of heavy baggage. His Word offers us freedom from the “grudges” that dim our light:

 * Forgiveness as a Command (and a Gift!): Jesus tells us repeatedly to forgive. It’s not just a suggestion, it’s a pathway to our own freedom. “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matthew 6:14). This applies to the big hurts and the small ones, even the ones caused by our furry friends! Forgiveness isn’t about excusing the behavior; it’s about releasing ourselves from its grip.

 * Letting Go of Bitterness: The Bible is very clear about the danger of holding onto anger and resentment. “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:31-32). Bitterness is like a root that can poison our hearts, affecting every area of our lives.

 * The Power of Love: Ultimately, letting go is an act of love – for others, and for ourselves. 1 Corinthians 13:5 reminds us that love “keeps no record of wrongs.” Imagine how much lighter we would feel if we truly lived by that principle!

Turning Grudges into Grace

So, how do we shift from holding onto the “stolen dinner” moments to embracing God’s call to let go?

 * Acknowledge the Feeling (Without Dwelling): It’s okay to feel annoyed or hurt. Don’t pretend you don’t. But quickly hand that feeling over to God. “Oh, LORD, I’m frustrated about this!”

 * Choose Forgiveness (Even for our furry companions): Forgiveness is a choice, not just a feeling. It’s an act of the will. Decide to release the feelings and the incident.

 * Remember God’s Grace Towards You: Think about how much God has forgiven you. This memory of His immense grace can empower you to extend grace to others, even when your dinner is eaten!

 * Pray for Release: Ask God to help you release the grudge. Sometimes, we need His divine intervention to truly let go of what clings to us.

 * Focus on the Present and Future: Once released, intentionally shift your focus to what is good, true, and pure (Philippians 4:8). Don’t replay the “stolen dinner” tape.

My dear sisters in Christ, life is full of little “Abby moments” – unexpected annoyances, small disappointments, or even significant hurts that can tempt us to hold onto resentment. But God calls us to a lighter, freer way. Let’s practice releasing those burdens, remembering the boundless grace and forgiveness He has poured out on us. When we choose to let go, we make more room in our hearts for His peace, His joy, and His purposes.

What’s a small “stolen dinner” moment you’ve recently experienced, and how did you choose to respond?

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June 22, 2025 · 7:23 pm

Oh, LORD! The Light’s Gone Out.

This morning, a long ago memory suddenly surprised me as I was turning into my kitchen. It took me back to 65 years ago and to the soft  warm glow of the lamp in the family den. That glow was a silent signal that my father was there, settled on the small, soft sofa, quietly reading the evening news. Just knowing he was there, with that lamp shining, filled me with a deep sense of safety and security. I’d often peek in, watching him turn those big newsprint pages, listening to the paper softly crinkle as it turned, feeling completely at peace. It’s a memory I truly treasure.

It’s funny how a simple light can hold such big feelings, isn’t it? That lamp, for me, was a quiet beacon of comfort and steady presence. And it made me think: What happens when the light goes out? What happens when those feelings of safety and security dim, or even vanish, in our own lives? We’ve all been there. We’ve all faced moments when it feels like the spiritual “lamp” in our hearts flickers, or worse, goes completely dark. That’s when we cry out, “Oh, LORD! The light’s gone out!”

Our Brains, Our Lamps, and God’s Reminder

Did you know your brain, right now, generates enough energy to light a small lightbulb? It’s constantly buzzing with power, fueling every thought, every feeling, every memory. What incredible potential lies within us! But sometimes, even with all that power, we struggle to find our way in the dark. We forget the light.

The amazing thing is, God knows this about us. He knows we’re prone to forgetting, especially when life gets tough. That’s why, all through the Bible, He constantly tells us to remember. He doesn’t just want us to have head-knowledge of His story; He wants us to have heart-knowledge of His faithfulness to us.

God’s Constant Call to Remember

Think about the Israelites in the Bible. After God worked miracle after miracle to free them from slavery in Egypt and lead them through the wilderness, what did He keep telling them? “Remember!”

  • “Remember the day you stood before the LORD your God…” (Deuteronomy 4:10).
  • “Remember that you were slaves in Egypt and and that the LORD your God brought you out of there with a mighty hand…” (Deuteronomy 5:15).
  • “Remember how the LORD your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years…” (Deuteronomy 8:2).

He wasn’t telling them to just recall old stories. He was telling them, “Look at what I’ve done! If I did it then, I can do it now. Trust Me!” It was like a constant spiritual light switch, reminding them to keep the switch on by remembering His proven track record.

The Psalms are full of this, too. When the writers felt lost or scared, they’d often say things like, “I will remember the deeds of the LORD; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago” (Psalm 77:11). They weren’t just wallowing in their worries; they were actively recalling God’s powerful work to pull themselves back into His light.

And what about the most important thing we do as Christians? Communion. When we take bread and wine, Jesus told us, “Do this in remembrance of me” (1 Corinthians 11:24-25). It’s not just a ritual; it’s a profound act of remembering His ultimate sacrifice, the very foundation of our hope and salvation. It’s the brightest lamp of our lives.

Why Remembering Lights Up Our Walk

So, why is this “remembering” so crucial for us, as Christian women seeking a deeper walk with God?

  • It Strengthens Our Faith: Just like that den lamp signaled safety, remembering God’s past faithfulness solidifies our trust in Him for today and tomorrow. If He brought you through before, He can and will do it again.
  • It Fills Us with Gratitude: When we deliberately recall His blessings – big and small, past answers to prayer, unexpected joys – our hearts naturally overflow with thanks. This shifts our focus from what might be dim to all the brightness He’s already given.
  • It Gives Us Hope: Every memory of God’s deliverance becomes a little beacon of hope, shining brightly into our future. It reminds us that His promises are true and His love never fails.
  • It Reminds Us Who We Are: Remembering God’s incredible power and love helps us remember who we are in Him. We are His beloved daughters, created with purpose, and called to be “lights” in this world (Matthew 5:14). When we recall His light, it empowers us to shine our own.

How to Keep Your Lamp Lit

But what can we do if we feel the light has been switched off?

  1. Start a “Lamp Moments” Journal: Get a notebook and write down every time you see God’s hand at work in your life – big breakthroughs, small comforts, answered prayers, unexpected graces. These are your personal “lamp moments.” When darkness tries to creep in, pull it out and reread them.
  2. Share Your Story: There’s immense power in sharing your testimony. When you tell others how God has shown up for you, it not only encourages them, but it also solidifies that memory in your own heart.
  3. Soak in Scripture: The Bible is a treasure trove of God’s faithfulness. Spend time reading and meditating on verses that remind you of His character and His powerful acts throughout history. Let His Word illuminate your mind and heart.
  4. Practice Gratitude: Make it a daily habit to thank God for specific things. Even in tough times, there’s always something to be grateful for, and acknowledging it keeps your spiritual lamp burning.

My dear sisters in Christ, God knows our struggles. He knows the moments when we cry out, “Oh, LORD! The light’s gone out!” But He’s given us an incredible tool: the power of remembrance. Let those cherished memories of His grace illuminate your path, strengthen your spirit, and remind you of the unwavering faithfulness of our LORD. May your own life radiate His light, born from the beautiful, undeniable memory of His grace.

What’s a “lamp moment” you’ve experienced recently that brought you comfort or hope?

Dr. Buck / Christian Life Coach /

As God gets bigger in our lives–we get stronger!

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May 18, 2025 · 5:44 pm

Oh, Lord! There’s Spilt Milk on the Floor

While moments of everyday frustration are inevitable – we’ve all experienced a spilt glass of milk, a burnt dinner, or a child’s unexpected mess – some moments, however, seem to appear more troublesome, testing and defining us as Christians. Yesterday, for me, was one of those defining moments.

My workday started as usual: prayer; cup of coffee; morning clean up; weekly scheduled group meeting with my co-workers. And then it happened. It wasn’t a physical spill or a surprise mess; rather, it was the words spoken by a colleague I’ve worked alongside for the past two years – words that landed with a thud, leaving a residue of bewilderment and worse, a bitter sting to my heart.

“Well, no one likes you or what you have to say,” my co-worker sneered jokingly. I had just presented the case for the importance of responding to employee ideas and thoughts. I believed an injustice had been done at the last all-employee company meeting and expressed my concern. His words came as a sharp blow and hung in the air, unprovoked and untrue.

My initial reaction, I confess, was a flash of hurt and resentment, a familiar echo of those moments from my younger years when strangers would cast unkind judgments without knowing a thing about me. It’s a strange and painful experience, isn’t it? To be belittled, to feel unseen and misunderstood, especially within a community where we strive for connection and support. The Bible reminds us that “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18). In that moment, the sharpness of those careless words pushed hard at me.

In a flash, something shifted within me. Perhaps it was the years of seeking God’s wisdom, the countless prayers whispered in moments of uncertainty. Instead of retreating into defensiveness or allowing the negativity to pool, a different response surfaced. A touch of humor, a gentle deflection: “Well, you must have gotten out of the wrong side of the bed.” I chuckled softly. “You should go back and try the other side.”

And then, a balm for my spirit – the unexpected and immediate support of another co-worker, standing up for truth and kindness. It was a beautiful reminder that even in the midst of human failings, God’s light shines through the hearts of others. How true are the words: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). The support was a tangible expression of this truth.

But even as the moment passed, the question lingered: why? Why would someone choose to speak words intended to wound? It’s a question that often leads us down a rabbit hole filled with unfounded assumptions and prideful offenses.

And that’s where the strength of God’s grace comes in, my dear sisters in Christ. It’s in recognizing that sometimes, the people who lash out are the ones carrying the heaviest burdens. Their words, though hurtful, may be a symptom of their own inner struggles, their own spilt milk on the floor of their hearts.

In that realization, I chose the path of prayer. Not a prayer of judgment or resentment, but a prayer of compassion. A prayer for the one who spoke those unkind words: “Oh, Lord,” I whispered, “bless him with understanding. Cover him with compassion, both for himself and for those around him. If his heart is hurting, Lord, bring him comfort. Help him to see the impact his words can have.” This aligns with the powerful teaching of Jesus: “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44).

This shift in perspective didn’t erase the sting entirely, but it did transform it. It allowed me to release the need to understand the “why” and instead focus on a response rooted in Christ’s love. It reminded me that my strength comes from God.

As fellow sojourners, we will undoubtedly face moments when the unexpected “spills” happen – when words wound, and misunderstandings pour out. In those times, we must choose to look beyond the surface and acknowledge our own feelings with honesty. We turn to the boundless grace of our Heavenly Father. Most importantly, we choose prayer. This is not a passive resignation but an active offering of love and a plea for understanding. We trust that God will work in ways we cannot see.

And with a resolute heart, as the apostle Paul directs in 1 Timothy 2:1, let us pray for one another, for those who hurt us, and for the healing that only God can truly provide. For in His grace, even the spilt milk on the floor of our hearts becomes that testament to God’s enduring love and compassion.

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April 18, 2025 · 6:33 pm

Oh, LORD! There’re Weeds in My Garden

Recently, my focus turned to my spring garden. With packets of seeds in my hand and a hand shovel, I envisioned delicate daisies, vibrant wildflowers, and perfectly unfurled ferns. Some days, I would lose myself in the intricate details of each emerging petal. Then came the shock. What I believed was a budding spring flower was nothing more than a worthless weed in disguise! Disbelief washed over me as I shook my head. “Where did you even come from?” I murmured. In that moment, the Holy Spirit spoke, His voice gentle yet powerful. “Just like your heart, daughter,” He whispered, “it happens the same way.” The “it”? Those subtle distractions that pull me away. Things that somehow take root in my heart, keeping me from a closer walk with Jesus.

Haven’t we all experienced this? We diligently tend the garden of our hearts. We plant seeds of faith, hope, and love. Our vision is a flourishing space, alive with the fruits of the Spirit. But then, we spot them. The unwelcome intruders. The persistent weeds that seem to sprout despite our best efforts. These are not the beautiful blooms we anticipated. Instead, they manifest as anxieties and worries. They appear as persistent temptations and ingrained habits that stifle our growth. It’s the inner critic whispering negativity. It’s the external pressures pulling us from God’s intended path.

Consider the parable of the wheat and the tares in Matthew 13. It vividly illustrates how the enemy often sows seeds of doubt, discord, and difficulty, even in the most fertile ground. And while Matthew 16 doesn’t explicitly mention weeds, the context of Peter’s struggle to grasp Jesus’s impending suffering reveals a crucial truth. Even those closest to God, individuals with the purest intentions, can be susceptible to worldly thinking. This thinking can choke out spiritual understanding. Peter, in his human desire to redirect Jesus, inadvertently became a voice of opposition, a “stumbling block” (Matthew 16:23)—an uninvited weed in God’s divine plan.

This truth resonates deeply within our own journeys. We strive for spiritual maturity. Yet, we so often find ourselves battling internal “weeds.” Sproutings of pride, insecurity, worry, or fear. We also encounter external “weeds.” These might take the form of challenging relationships, difficult circumstances, or the alluring pull of worldly distractions. These weeds can feel overwhelming. They threaten to suffocate the very life of our spiritual growth.

But take heart, my dear companions in Christ. The presence of weeds does not signify a lost garden. Instead, it signifies our active participation, through God’s Holy Spirit, in His ongoing work of cultivation. The Apostle Paul, a man intimately acquainted with relentless trials and inner struggles, declared with unwavering conviction: “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39, ESV). This powerful truth reminds us that even amidst the weeds, God’s unwavering love remains. It is our constant source of strength and hope. His love provides security, safety, connection, and purpose. 

So, how do we deal with these persistent weeds? One vital tool in our spiritual gardening kit is the power of prayer, especially when it intertwines with praise. Praise is more than mere gratitude for blessings received. It is an active acknowledgment of God’s sovereignty. It recognizes His goodness and His unfailing love, even amidst our struggles. When we begin our prayers with heartfelt praise, our focus shifts. It moves from the weeds to the Gardener. We acknowledge His power to work in and through our challenges.

Praising God in the face of difficulty is like spraying (very carefully) the homemade mixture of vinegar, soap, and salt on those unwanted weeds. It exposes their powerlessness against His glory, effectively killing their roots. Simultaneously, it strengthens our faith. It reminds us that He is far bigger than any obstacle we face. This cultivates an attitude of dependence on Him, preventing us from being consumed by the problem itself. As we consistently offer praise, our prayers transform. They become more than just requests. They become powerful declarations of faith, aligning our hearts with God’s will and inviting His transformative power into our lives.

So what about those weeds that grow without permission? My sisters, do not be discouraged by the weeds in your garden. They serve as a reminder that growth is a process, not a destination. Embrace the ongoing work of tending your hearts with prayer. Let it be deeply rooted in unwavering praise. Remember the steadfast love of God that surrounds you. No weed, no struggle, can ever sever that bond. Continue to cultivate your faith. Know that with God’s help, your garden will not only survive but flourish. It will bear abundant blossoms and fruit for His glory. Keep digging, keep praying, keep praising. Watch as the Master Gardener transforms your challenges into a channel for deeper growth and unwavering faith.

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September 8, 2020 · 3:58 pm

Knocking on Heaven’s Door

A few months ago, our Pastor encouraged us to think about ways of how the stay-at-home COVID-19 mandate could be a blessing. He suggested that God could and would open a door of opportunity for anyone that asked.

As I sat before my laptop screen listening to his message, I felt a nudge inside of me. I wondered if it were possible or even appropriate for a 70-year-old retired professor of communication arts to even consider such a challenge.

The thoughts came: What would a door of opportunity look like? What would it sound like? Who and what would be on the other side of that door? Oddly, the thoughts made me nervous and yet excited. With raised eyebrows, I questioned: Was this challenge really meant for me?

Six months later, I am now a 180 Advisor and Virtual Learning Coach. I am glad that I accepted our Pastor’s challenge. The challenge, however, was not without an inner fight and resulted in many a long nights, bleary eyes, and weary bones.

Perhaps, it’s best to start with telling you what a 180 Advisor is and what it is not. A 180 Advisor is not a pyramid scheme, a swindler’s dream or confidence game. Rather, I find it to be an activity involving both extreme mental and physical efforts. It can draw both the best and worst out of me, so, keeping my eyes open and catching myself from the temptation of bulldozing others out of my way remains high on my must-remember-to-do list.

The name 180 Advisor came from John, my daughter’s beau. John’s work involves helping businesses through financial crisis. He told me that there exists a huge difference between a 360 degree and a 180-degree turn. One leaves you going in the same dizzy direction headed toward crisis whereas the other, 180, means a turnabout, a shift, a complete change in the direction and thought in which one is engaged. I adopted the name immediately and asked his permission to become one of his 180 agents. John agreed.

This excitement helped to balance the anxiety that had recently crept in as the stay-at-home COVID-19 mandate had closed all my avenues of social interaction. Our library volunteer manager wrote an exceptionally long and sad goodbye as the City closed our library’s doors. My Homeowners Owners Association banned all public meetings. The distance to my family and neighbors’ homes grew longer with the passing of each day. And, although, the broadcasted public announcements continually reassured me that I was not alone and that separation did not mean isolation, I could not help feeling I was on my own.

It was in this gradually growing state of mindfulness that I answered my cell phone on that early April morning. The person on the other side of the phone greeted me with her familiar term of endearment “My sister,” and went on to ask: “how are you? I was wondering if you had time to talk.” And talk we did. And I’m glad we did. I still have the notes I took during our conversation about teaching and teachers and developing online training because of COVID-19 and the need to shift from classroom instruction to online using computers and the Internet. The pivot was shaking the field education like a 6.0 earthquake.

A few weeks ago, I gave my first online Zoom presentation to a university in Florida. It went very well. I felt like a 180 Advisor—that I am making a difference. And, best of all, I have been invited back next month to provide additional faculty training in online pedagogical practices for educators. This was not an opportunity that I could have foreseen. It is, however, a personal turnaround for which I am grateful and thank God for opening this door of engagement. I had forgotten most of my training in education and so it forced me to reconnect to theory and to practice and, most importantly, people.

In addition to my consulting work, I am also opening a new series of art on my Art Journaling Facebook page connected to my blog here at Living Life’s Way. Over the last seventy years, I’ve learned a lot about life and the 3P’s—people, places, and pets. And, apparently, a need exists for older Christian women sharing life experiences with younger women in those areas! — (we’ll talk more about that later).

The opening verse is taken from Philippians 1:11 (TLB). “May you always be doing those good, kind things that show you are a child of God, for this will bring much praise and glory to the Lord.”

My hope is that younger women everywhere can learn from both my successes as a new creature in Christ as well as the hard-earned lessons from my missteps as God’s new creation.

God’s blessings and peace!

Dr. Buck / 180 Advisor / Virtual Learning Coach

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